Simplified Laws Guide to Taxation and Legal Concern ‘Gathi’ is a Kannada play directed by a popular Kannada artiste Mr. Sethuraman. The main character of the drama says “I still remember, when I was young, my father used to blame me for no reason and beat me in front of guests or relatives” The character in the drama was an old man of 70 Years. Even after he attained this old age, he could not forget those days of humiliation.
Some of the employers abuse their team members/staff, (making them to stand in their cabin) in front of guests or customers or other service providers. I have seen many such instances where the owners shout on top of their voice against their accountants or sales managers without giving them any opportunity to defend. Many times the staff members are abused for no fault of theirs. According to me, this act is not only cruel but criminal.
I happened to meet a hardly known person after a gap of 10 years. During the conversation he introduced his son who was along with him. While talking, he said “My son is like his mother, very lazy. You have seen how active I am, even at 60. You know I am working for a company. But my son, even though he is 30, is not showing any interest in building his career. All his qualities are like his mother; not just his mother, his mother’s side entire people are like this; they are useless” The son who was standing beside him bowing his head down didn’t utter a word.
Lessons from the above –
- If you abuse someone, be it an employee or your son/daughter or any other family member it shows your character. People who are listening to you will get disgusted with your attitude. So, kindly refrain from humiliating anyone; especially in the presence of guests or friends.
- If you are 60 years and your son is already 30, why didn’t you correct his behavior or attitude so far? I know you were busy in your profession, spending time with your friends. Had you spent quality time with your son he would have changed for good. Suppose you had tried your best in the last 30 years and failed in correcting his attitude; do you think that you can correct him now? Leave him to his destiny. He will realize his mistakes and correct himself over a period of time.
- If you have to shout at someone or blame them for the mistake, kindly do it within closed doors. If you have to praise someone, kindly do it in front of everyone.
- Think of a situation where your employee or your son retaliates in front of your friends or guests or customers? You can’t digest it, isn’t it?
- Next time, before you abuse someone, think twice.
Thought for the day
Be nice…. Harsh words don’t break bones but they often break hearts.
