Are you someone who shouts, harasses, ignores, or irritates the people around you like your spouse, kids, team members, juniors, professionals, consultants, vendors, or even customers? If so, this note is for you. Trust me, it could change the way people see you and the way you see yourself.
When you shout or behave poorly, here is what happens:
- The first time, people might think, “Maybe you’re having a bad day. You’re a good person at heart.”
- The second time, they’ll start wondering, “Maybe you’re frustrated with something. It’s hurtful, but I’ll let it slide.”
- The third time, they’ll conclude, “oh, so this is how you really are.”
Here is the thing: when you shout or harass others, it’s You vs. Many. But once people recognize your behaviour, it flips, becoming Many vs. You.
And then comes the backlash:
- Some will shout back at you. You’ll lose their respect.
- Some will ignore you entirely. And let’s be honest, that will hurt your ego and leave you feeling isolated.
If you are shouting at work, here is the harsh reality:
- In a corporate setting, losing control over your emotions can end your career faster than you think. People remember. The ones you’ve wronged will wait for their moment to show you exactly how they feel.
Now imagine this: what happens if everyone you hurt gives you a taste of your own medicine? Can you handle the isolation, the damage, the fallout? Probably not.
Why This Matters
As a middle-aged person, I have seen both the old-school ways of running families and businesses and the new-age dynamics, I can confidently tell you it is not enough to just be good at what you do, how you manage your emotions, especially anger defines your success at work, at home, and in life.
Want tips? Here is Your Mantra:
- Want respect from your peers, colleagues, and team members?
- Want peace and harmony with your spouse and kids?
- Want lasting relationships in business and personal life?
Just Love. That’s it. Replace shouting with understanding, frustration with patience, and arrogance with empathy.
Love is the one force that never goes out of style. It earns you respect, builds trust, and creates bonds that last a lifetime.
So, go on try it. Spread love. Be the change you want to see.
With this note, I will wrap up my final article of 2024. Wish you all a happy and peaceful new year in advance.
Love you all!